Have you ever had something come into your life right when you needed it most?

That’s how I feel about Human Design.

My boyfriend and I had just moved in together. It was the first time either of us had lived with a partner.

Add to that the fact that we were both working remotely in a tiny one-bedroom NYC apartment (iykyk), and suddenly, we were spending all day, every day together.

When you’re with someone that much, you quickly notice all their quirks (and they notice yours!).

Those little things that might’ve seemed cute on a weekend date? They can suddenly make you want to bang your head against a wall.

At the time, I was just starting to explore Human Design. And as I dove into my chart, I felt this instant wave of recognition.

Then I looked up my boyfriend’s chart, and it was the same feeling all over again. All those little habits and tendencies, strengths and challenges, the way he processes things—it was so undeniably him.

But it was seeing our charts side-by-side that was the biggest game-changer. It felt like I’d been handed a user manual on how he (and “we”) operate.

Suddenly, I was no longer flying blind—I could see what he needed from me to feel supported, loved, and understood. I could also communicate my own needs more clearly, helping him understand how to best support me in return.

This allowed us to connect on an even deeper level and brought a lot more ease into our relationship (and a lot less of those tense awkward silences that somehow always seem to feel SO LOUD).

And I want that for you too!

Understanding your partner / friend / family member's Human Design—even just the basics—can change everything in a relationship!

So today, let’s dive into two key aspects that can help you better support not only those close to you, but also yourself.

Let's start with a real-world example:

My boyfriend and I are both Generators, which means we’re designed to respond to life, not initiate. But before we understood this, we constantly fell into what I like to call “the endless question loop.”

You know the one: “What do you want for dinner?” “I don’t know, what do you want?” “What should we do this weekend?” “I don’t care… do you have any ideas?”

Cue the back-and-forth, with each of us secretly hoping the other would just decide already! Sound familiar?

As I dove deeper into Human Design, I learned that Generators thrive when responding to clear, specific options—yes-or-no or “Would you rather” style questions that allow us to tap into the wisdom of our Sacral energy. Instead of going in circles with open-ended questions, we respond best when given concrete choices.

So, we decided to try a simple shift. Now, instead of “What do you want for dinner?” we’ll ask, “Do you feel like tacos or sushi tonight?” This little adjustment alone has taken so much frustration out of our daily routines (well, most of the time, anyway 😉).

TRY THIS WITH YOUR PARTNER:

Curious about how this could work for you? Start by finding your partner’s Human Design Type (you can look it up for free ​here​.) Then, check out your Types below to discover how small tweaks in communication could make a big difference.

Then, ask yourself:

1. What does my partner need in our communication, and how can I give that to them?
2. What do I need in our communication, and how can I help my partner support that?
3. What’s one small step we can each take to make each other feel seen, understood, and supported for who we truly are?

If you’re in a close relationship—especially a romantic one—you know that decisions come up constantly, from where to eat to major life choices like where to live or whether or not to start a family.

But here’s the thing: the way each of us is wired to make aligned decisions - our Authority in Human Design - can be completely different.

For me, having Sacral Authority means I often know right away if something’s a “yes” or “no.” It’s a gut response, an instant feeling of either expansion (yes!) or contraction (nope).

My boyfriend, on the other hand, has Emotional Authority. The golden rule for Emotional Authorities (a whopping 50% of the population) is, “There IS no truth in the now.” This means he needs time to “ride out his emotional wave” before he can find true clarity.

Learning this was so eye-opening for me. Before I understood his process, I’d often take his in-the-moment answers too seriously, not realizing he was still feeling his way through.

He might say “yes” or “no” during a high or low point, only to feel completely differently later.

Now that I understand his process, I give him the time and space to settle into clarity before he makes a decision. This simple awareness has saved us both so much unnecessary frustration!

TRY THIS WITH YOUR PARTNER:

If you and your partner have different Authorities, understanding each other’s unique process can make a huge difference. Start by locating your Authorities in the list below:

Now, ask yourself:

• How can I support my partner in making decisions according to their Authority?
• What adjustments can I make in our communication to honor their process?
• How can my partner better support my Authority and decision-making process and how can I communicate that to them?
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We’ve only just begun to explore how Human Design can transform your relationships—and if you’re ready to take it further, I’ve got something special in the works!

I’m currently putting together a masterclass that dives deep into the ways that Human Design can help bring more ease, understanding, and alignment into your relationships.

You’ll get a practical, step-by-step process to decode how your chart connects with others, so you can actually put these insights into practice.

(Because let’s be real—there’s nothing worse than being bombarded with information and left to figure it all out alone. Not on my watch! 🙅🏻‍♀️)

​Click here to join the interest list and be the first to know when it launches (plus get exclusive pre-sale pricing)!

I hope to see you there!

In the meantime, here’s to loving each other—and ourselves—a little better, one connection at a time. 💛

In your corner,